How we see things, as you know, is all about perspective. And the way in which we see things, the way we personally interpret them, is always about what is inside of us and not about the other person, thing, or situation we are perceiving.
Our personal perceptions are born out of the sum total of our life experiences, our feelings of confidence or inadequacy, our feelings of security or fear, of our need to control outcomes or people (which is fear based) or of feelings of inner-peace and surrender… and the list goes on. Perception is always an inside job.
Isn’t that wonderful to know?
Changing our perceptions is profoundly life changing. Yes indeed, changing the way we see things, truly does change everything!
If we wish to change our perceptions, we needn’t change anything outside of us, it all has to happen on the inside of ‘us’, we simply work on our inner-selves; we heal that which needs healing (and we ALL have wounds requiring healing, not one of us escapes this), we open our hearts to the unending possibilities of our magnificent Universe, and we surrender our need to control. We learn to change our ‘thoughts’ which will change our ‘feelings’, which will change the way we view life, people, intentions, situations, our world. Truly. We learn to ‘let go’ of all that we cling so tightly to.
P.S. That said, even this post is simply my personal perspective and is open to change as I continue to evolve. 😉
There are times when storms come into our lives without warning. Like a ship lost out at sea, we can feel as though we’re being tossed to-and-fro, not knowing where this darkened and frightening storm is taking us… and feeling as though we are powerless to guide ourselves to safety, let alone knowing where to go or even how to get there.
It can feel dizzying, blinding, frightening, lonely – it can look as though there is no way out, no way to safely land ashore. But I want to tell you that no matter what storm you may be facing in your life today, I promise you this; IT WILL PASS!! You see, storms ‘never’ settle – they are always moving and ever changing – they can only ‘ever’ pass through.
Never forget that you are indeed a Divine Invincible Spirit that is stronger and more powerful than your human-ness can even comprehend. You are strong – you are mighty – you are amazingly capable of handling ANY storm!
You are Divine!
You are Spirit!
You are an Heir of our most High God!
Stand tall – stand strong – smile – put a sparkle back in those stunning eyes of yours; look that storm right in the eye and *know* it is already defeated! Don’t worry about this storm sinking you… it cannot sink you unless you give up and give in… don’t you dare!! You keep yourself afloat… you walk on that water and show it what you’re made of!!
Remember. Every. Storm. Will. Pass.
Every storm will pass, and that brilliant, magnificent sun will shine down upon your beautiful face once again…
And please know… you are NEVER alone!!
By Jamie Barone
“It is not necessary to isolate children and withdraw our love to teach them how to “behave”. In fact, it is entirely possible to help children learn to be cooperative and decent members of society without ever issuing punishments, rewards, or artificial consequences of any kind. No quick and easy method will solve every conflict. Instead, we need to treat each situation as the unique challenge that it is, and try to be flexible and creative, all the while giving our children the love and respect they deserve.”
I absolutely believe in this… wholeheartedly. I live this and find that there is never a need for punishment in order to teach, in order for a child to learn, in order to turn a behavior around. In fact, children LOVE when we take the time to gently teach them and help them to learn new ways of handling situations, new ways of handling their emotions – it empowers them in a most wonderful way – it lifts them up, rather than tear them down – it fills them with hope and healthy self-esteem, rather than shame and condemnation. They SO LOVE to please us and make us proud… and they SO LOVE to learn and to become empowered. And more importantly, they Love to give and receive LOVE like no other being on this planet. Punishment does not teach anything… other than… well… punishment.
By Jamie Barone
“The most precious gift we can offer anyone is our attention.”
– Thich Nhat Hanh
This is something I have always known, and in truth, I’ve always prided myself in this area (self-righteous might be a more appropriate word to use), always making sure not to neglect anyone or any relationship that is important to me.
Well, pride is a tricky thing, friends, yes it is, as it has found a way to slap me right in the smacker! Oh yes it did! You see, as a single mommy still trying to regain my balance (though happily so), I have found myself to become increasingly busy with various, very important aspects of my life. With no family, all of my close friends having moved away and living in other states, this single parenting responsibility/Joy can really take a toll at times, on my, well… Time.
I, the one who has always been there for everyone at the drop of a hat, have suddenly found myself unable to do so. And, while this is a bit of a shock therapy to me, please imagine the shock to those who were so use to my unending attention. That’s right folks… I, Jamie Barone, am now unable to be all things to all people at all times. Whew!
The positive side of this equation is that I have learned who my true friends are; those who authentically care about me and those who never did. For those who have not given up on me, oh how I thank you… oh how grateful I am for you.
While I am learning to healthily balance my time and to make sure I do not neglect those who I Love and care about, I have indeed learned that I must take care of myself first if I want to have any energy to expend anywhere else, including the most important people and relationships in my life.
Learning and growing… and grateful for each and every moment, and each and every person who holds a special place in my heart.
I Love You…
By Jamie Barone
~ For Mothers of Sons ~
As we are Lovingly teaching our sons to become self-sufficient men, let us please also make sure to speak and treat our boys with respect, to show them each day that they are truly Lovable and worthy, teaching them a healthy SELF-Love, along with how to ‘respectfully’ express themselves and their Love. We are the very first woman in a man’s life – this is not to be taken lightly. We undoubtedly play a huge part in their future relationships with women. And with this awareness, let us please also bless the future woman in their lives.
By Jamie Barone
“DON’T try to FORCE anything. Let life be a deep let-go. See God opening millions of flowers everyday without forcing the buds.”
~ Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh ~
This to me is The Art of Surrender… Beautiful, full of Peace and Serenity. Bringing contentment and knowing that all is happening as it should be… each and every new bloom, as well as each and every thing that no longer serves us well, wilting away and moving out of our world.
Every single moment in our lives is happening for a reason, and not just for our own personal reason, but for all as a collective – like one tiny ripple creating a change and never-ending difference in the boundless ocean. That one tiny raindrop raises the entire ocean and the ‘entire ocean’ is never the same.
Life is so much bigger than us… there is SO much more to all we experience here on this Planet Earth. So. Much. More.
No matter where you are in your world, please be at peace knowing that every moment IS happening exactly as it is for a reason. There are no mistakes… no failures… only lessons and learning, and growing…
Life is precious… the lessons we learn and the growth they evoke are priceless. And remember that every single moment in your life is a chance at a new beginning. Every. Single. Moment.
By Jamie Barone
To be Loved
To be Loved
To know your Divine Lover,
To surrender to this presence,
This enlightened Love.
Open your heart…
Never stop believing.
We cannot resist Divine Love.
It comes to us.
It draws us in.
Bow before Love.
God is always saying yes
To this magical Love
Let it fill your soul
With it’s all knowing,
Invite it in…
© Jamie Antoinette Barone
If we carry bricks from our past relationship(s) to the new one, we will simply build the same house…
So often, men and women alike, wait until they have someone waiting in the wings before they finally leave a relationship they no longer want. It’s often out of a fear of being alone, and/or being unable to tap into that courage that we all posses. Yet, before jumping from one relationship right into another, let us think about doing all we can to first heal any wounds that need healing before entering in to a new relationship. Any wounds we incur from a painful relationship will simply make a grand appearance, sooner or later, in the new one. We don’t leave our baggage behind, we drag it with us – until we stop, open it up, take a good honest look, and clean it up, which takes time, effort, and awareness.
Going from one relationship to another without self-care/self-Love, and time alone in-between relationships to heal, to grow, spending time alone getting to know ourselves without the influence of another person or relationship commitment, may be necessary if we wish *not* to “repeat” our relationship history. This is especially important when we have children. It is not in their hearts best interest to see mommy or daddy going straight to another person–whether or not they say so, this affects them deeply as well. Children grieve the loss of all they know, even when it is a painful environment. Children need time to heal, too.
When we heal the wounds from our past, it changes everything–from how we react/respond, to how capable we are of truly Loving another, to how able we are to forgiving others–on and on it goes. This list of magic never ends. And truly… it can create the most Beautiful, magical, Love relationship ever even imagined.
Please, just think about it. It’s worth thinking about.
By Jamie Barone
If I could gift only one message from my heart to our world, it would be this: No matter what we have experienced in our life, no matter how wonderful, or, how horrific, no matter what, none of it determines our attitude or who we choose to be.
No person or experience has power over us to take away our choice of attitude and heart condition. Our attitude comes from within. Always and only from within.
‘We get to choose’ Love or hate, compassion or bitterness, forgiveness or unforgiveness, gentleness or hardness, trust or distrust… and the list goes on.
Not one of us walks away from this life-journey unscathed, with lessons to learn and experiences to grow us… we are all in this together. When we realize this, we understand that we are a collective soul team, that we are never alone, we are truly Divinely Loved, and we are more powerful than imagined.
Our life experiences do NOT determine our attitude and heart condition. It is always our choice. Always.
So, LOVE… LOVE… LOVE!
That, in a nutshell, would be my message.
By Jamie Barone
Is anyone feeling Romance in the air?
~ The Ethereal Kiss ~
As I lay down my weary head
And gently close my eyes,
I find myself falling away,
To a magical place,
A place where our deepest longings
And truest desires come to life.
In the misty distance
I see your face, so Beautiful to behold,
Bronzed by the sun, chiseled and glistening
Like the finest of gold.
With the magnetic pull of your Alluring eyes,
I transcend to this Heavenly Paradise.
As we move nearer to each other
With the sweetness of your breath upon mine,
I melt in your embrace.
I am lost in your eyes
As we delightfully intertwine.
Taking us to the Divine.
Sheltered by your Love,
Our lips begin to touch
Mmmm… your luscious lips so soft and moist,
Your tongue so tenderly caressing mine,
Like the taste of pure honey,
The sweetest nectar one can find.
This ethereal Kiss is truly sublime…